Sunday, August 13, 2017

Self Care Sunday...A Story of Love and Self Care

I don't usually blog on Sundays as it is my spiritual sabbath.  Yet I'm still awake on a Saturday/Sunday night so I thought I might try to squeeze in a blog post. This month has been chaotic to say the least, and it's not even halfway over. Today I will raise my hand in church and put a dollar in the mission jar in thanks for my David. Thursday morning I awoke to find him sitting on the edge of our bed, very late for work, and in a cold sweat. He was having chest pains. Thus began the scariest 24+ hours of my life. Neither on of us were a stranger to this drill, so I gave him 3 aspirin and had him sit in the chair while I called 911. I held it together pretty well until we got to the hospital and I went upstairs to find breakfast. Instead I found the prayer chapel, I walked inside and just collapsed in a pile on the floor. Sobbing. My rock, my best friend, my truest love. There was a chance I could lose him and I was terrified. I felt broken. I was so angry. I was shaking and my heart was pounding.

I know, you're probably thinking this has nothing to do with self-care or crafting.... But please, I implore you to read on. 

In case you haven't read any of my previous posts, I had a bad car accident on the 1st of this month. I passed out and was one with a telephone pole. My body is still reeling from that scenario. Thursday I just didn't know what to do with myself. In the excitement of packing the 'ER' bag I forgot to pack my pain medicine and cancelled my heart treatments for the rest of the week, unsure of what the next 24 hours would bring. I didn't take care of me too. I know, that may sound selfish, but if you suffer from chronic illness, if you don't take care of you you'll be pretty useless to those who need you. By the time they decided they were going to keep him, David urged me... well he pretty much told me to go home and rest. I was crying at the drop of a hat and in a great amount of pain. I didn't want to tell him that. All I wanted was to be there for him. But what good would I be? David had a fantastic nurse named Sheva who assured me that if there were any changes that she would call me and that he was in good hands. He was.  I kissed him on the forehead, told him how much I loved him and I felt like I was abandoning him. He assured me that I wasn't. Somehow he knew he was going to be ok. I am still struggling in my faith a bit, but I had to believe that he was going to be fine. The bus and train ride home was awful, I think I cried the whole way. That night I drowned my sorrows in pizza, not my best choice. I prayed all night, and called for prayer for David from all of our friends and family. They apparently prayed for me as well because I finally got some rest. I slept, slept hard, and woke up with my heart at peace, and a text from David saying that he had just finished up with his stress test. 

Self care, especially in a crisis situation is key. It helps you slow down and focus on the non-crisis to give your heart and mind peace, which helps you deal with your crisis better. I wish I could have told myself this three days ago. I'm saying them to you now. Stop, breathe, and take care. Friday, my prayers were answered and David came home; just a wake up call. Now we have a path to follow with better food and exercise. I have to stop and learn to take care of myself, because I'm still recovering from those two days. My husband has his 'bug out bag' prepared for times of crisis... full of food, knives, and other survival tools.... ladies, you need to have your own 'bug out bag' in times of crisis. No, do not fill it with wine or pharmaceuticals... you need to be clear headed in time of crisis, but do fill it with other things that make you feel good. Items of self-care....

1. A good book, spiritual or not... but not something too intense
2. A candle or scented oil that calms you...
3. A coloring book or something creative to distract your mind
4. chocolate
5. pictures of good times
6. a comfortable shirt
7. lip moisturizer
8. lotion... something that smells good and calming... for your face and arms.
9. a happy playlist
10. a great bag to put all of this in.....

Have this bag at the ready... because you never know what life can happen at the drop of a hat. It's now almost three in the morning and I'd like to be awake for church in the morning.... 

Monday, August 7, 2017

It's another Manic Monday....

And what have you done today? Did you adult today? Did you pull the covers over your head and wish it was Saturday morning? Mondays don't always have to be bad...  They're only bad if you have it in your head that they are. The internet is full of meme's that perpetuate the myth of the bad Monday. It's all a state of mind. Yeah, here I am 'Little Miss Mary Sunshine', but the thing is you need to get it out of your head that Mondays are bad. Let us reference the picture below... this happened on a Tuesday. Tuesday, August first 2017 to be exact. 

my baby....

See.... 'it' can happen in an instant and on any day. When you target your day, when you have your head set up thinking that one day is going to be bad... chances are something is not going to go your way, you are going to psych yourself out that something bad will happen. It may not be something as major as a car wreck, but the thing is...YOU SHOULD NOT LIVE YOUR LIFE IN FEAR OF A DAY.... You should not live in fear at all. I lived in fear, not of a day, but of other things, for many years. I was afraid to live and I missed out on so much and it made me a very unpleasant person to be around. If you find yourself in fear, ask yourself, why do I fear it? WHAT is it about?  A person, place or thing? Will it hurt me? What will it do to me? Fear will rob you of your happiness... trust me. So wake up tomorrow, and say... TODAY IS GOING TO BE MY DAY.... own it. Do this every morning when you put your feet on the floor. Make it part of your spiritual practice, no matter what faith journey you are on. 

It would be so easy for me after my accident to be afraid of driving, afraid of being in a car. The thing is, I caused the crash. Fortunately it was just me and the telephone pole. Before the accident, in general, I had been dealing with severe car anxiety, something I have no idea why. Before that I had never been in a car accident, or even came close. When I got into our FJ Cruiser to go home form the hospital on Wednesday I was at peace. I had it in my head that I was safe. Yesterday, however I had a major panic attack as David got onto the on ramp to the freeway.  It hit me out of nowhere. Yet a few minutes later I was fine. We don't know when the fear will hit, the thing is, NOT TO LET IT RULE YOU! Go in peace my friends and have a FABULOUS Monday!

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Fab and Fun.... a places for all my dukes and duchesses to hang out...

Hi all! In the spirit of getting Altered Whimseys on the map and gaining readership, I have added a fun facet... and that would be Altered Whimseys Fab and Fun Group.... a place for my blog and You Tube fans to converge and make new friends, share ideas, be a part of some exclusive giveaways and so much fab and fun stuff that I just don't have the room to write it all down. Just click here and you'll be on your way to meeting fab and fun friends who share your creative spirit.... Make friends, share your work, share your hopes and dreams! Welcome....

Love & Hugs
the Duchess of Sassy Town
Kimberly Rae

Self Care Sunday....

Over the next few weeks as I rebrand and overhaul Altered Whimseys I'll be adding special feature content. Our low key Sundays will be dedicated to Self-Care. For many, Sunday is Sabbath, time to rest. So why not rest and take care of you? Self-care can be many things... taking care of yourself physically by giving yourself a home facial or hair treatment, or spiritual, by reading scripture or spiritual writings meaningful to you. Take some time for you. Even if it's only 15 or 20 minutes, that's your time and can revive your for the rest of the day, if not the rest of the week. As the weeks go on I will be adding to my self-care Pinterest board, so feel free to peruse. Right now it's after midnight and I have church in the morning. 

Monday, July 31, 2017

Bye bye July and hello August... It's time!

Time to buy some cards that is... yes, the Altered Whimseys card store is open! I am so excited about this new chapter in my creative life. Last month was just insanity... August, time to sit back, regroup and enjoy life. I just want to shout out to my cheerleaders... my mom Mitca and my husband David. They've both been urging me to open my own store and share my cards with the world. At first I was apprehensive... I really didn't want to turn my hobby into my 'job'. Then I thought.... how many people have a job doing what they really love? I love making cards for people, making them smile, brightening their day! So I'm really doing this... really. I don't have a full inventory yet, so please bear with me, I'm new at this. I sold a couple of things a while back on Etsy just for fun and to see if I could do it. For the longest time I thought my stuff wasn't 'good enough' to sell... well pshah... forget that! It's fun, it's whimsical and original. It's also going to be elegant and creative when my Couture Card line comes out... (stay tuned for that). 

So share this with a friend, tell them to share it, buy some, share your happiness with others and they'll buy some! It's a win win! Just click on the Love card to your right and it will take you directly to the store! We accept all major cards and PayPal!

Monday, July 24, 2017

Manic Monday....

Yes, I just did that, and you've got Manic Monday by the Bangles going through your head. For those of you under the age of forty and who may not know who these amazing women are, they are a pop group from the 80's that were trailblazers for women in popular music. Ok... enough about the music... it's Monday, and for most of us that means we're frantically hitting our snooze button, pulling our sheets over our heads (at least in CA were it has been triple digits all weekend), and wishing for another day to be wedged between Sunday and Monday. Sorry ya'll, it is Monday, no matter how much in denial you are about Mondays, it's gonna happen. Yet Monday's don't necessarily have to be bad. You, yes you, can reclaim your Monday by starting with a self-care regimen of a calming facial mask made from two drops of tea tree oil, coconut oil (to act as binder), 1\2 cup of oatmeal (uncooked rolled oats), 4 tablespoons of coconut milk and a teaspoon of ground ginger.... apply to face, let it set for 25 minutes, then rinse with cool can prepare this ahead of time and apply and then go make breakfast or check e-mails. Another great start to your day is this... now don't shoot me... start your day with green tea and honey instead of coffee... your body needs a break, and green tea is a great detox, and it doesn't weigh your system down like coffee does. There are so many good ways to start your Monday... for me it's not watching the news first thing in the morning. If I need to know traffic or weather, I use my weather and traffic apps on my phone. Getting all riled up over politics and all the stupidity of the weekend is no way to start your day. Tune out and tune into great tunes that make you smile....a little goes a long way. Have a great week ya'll.